I was listening to episodes of the Wigglian Way that I had missed, and I do have a bit of an obsession with them as they are my favorite pagan podcast. It was episode 55 I believe, and they were discussing what makes someone 'Wiccan'. I think this is an interesting topic not just for classifying Wiccans but for Pagans in general. I refer to myself under the umbrella term 'Pagan' but it's well accepted amonst my friends that when I use this term it is simply in reference to my 'non-Christian' belief system.
The Neo-Pagan movement is a very real thing though, and with the 80s introduction of 'pick and choose' Neo-Wicca for the masses it becomes difficult to describe what people believe.
Disclaimer: The following is my opinion.
Personally, I agree with the Wigglians in that I believe that Wicca is a term referencing a religion with specific initiatory traditions (Alexandrian, British Traditional, Gardnerian, etc.), NOT Eclectic. 'Eclectic' is NOT a tradition, it's the creation of a personal path but isn't Wicca in the sense that you were initiated into this tradition by people you studied under (unless your tradition was originally a form of eclecticism that developed into a trad). From my understanding (and feel free to contradict me) 'eclectic wicca' typically deals with self dedication which, in the words of the Wigglians, is "between you and your gods".
I do have eclectic friends, and I love them all so much... I am a witch and I don't characterise my spirituality because it really doesn't fall into categories. I used to characterise myself as Eclectic, now I just call myself a Witch or a Pagan (in the non-christian sense of course).
I'd love to hear everyone's opinions (if more than a whole 2 people read my blog...).
Oh, if anyone was curious: I resolved the issue that inspired my "I Am Afraid" post, it saddened me to an extent because he (the man I was eliminating from my life) has been making really positive changes in his life. For the first time he sincerely apologized to me and recognized that he overreacted a lot over the course of our time together. I know it will be for the best though, and the two of us parted on a good note knowing that our doors remain open for one another.